The start of the new year is a great time to restore, re-set and re-present ourselves to the world.
Whether that is through making a list of goals, defining a theme or simply choosing to rebel against setting any intentions, the time is potent and pulsing with the creative life force energy.
Because even if you take out the man-made calendar year, the combined consciousness of each and every living being collectively gearing to let go of the old and bring in the new is palpable.
You are an integral part of this consciousness.
With that in mind, how can you use this collective energy wisely?
There is a lot of research that highlights that it takes twenty-one days (three weeks) for any new habit to take form. Before you subscribe to this method, let’s just run the process through with an example. Your goal is to lose weight, floss twice a day or start a daily meditation routine, so you focus on creating a habit and decide to dedicate your time and effort for twenty-one days. Underneath the excitement and determination to achieve this goal, resides a deep-seated expectation that can quickly transform itself into stress.
Somehow the mental thoughts creep in and take over leaving you heavily focused on the time frame rather than the goal itself.
What happens then?
Your intention goes flying out the tiniest crack in the window and you have unconsciously set yourself up to fail.
There is an energy that is not of the mind, that truly ignites your will power to exceed beyond time, space and distance.
T R U S T
Ultimately, trust what will get you there.
How can you build trust as you transition into new ways of being for the next year?
Below are three key ways in which you can build trust in yourself.
1. Connect with your core strengths
Your strengths are a mix of tangible and non-tangible, so get to know what they are. There are many tools that can help you connect with your strengths but personally, I find the most effective way is to consult with the people you admire in your life. Bet you admire these people for a very good reason, right? More often than not, these people are excellent mirror reflections of who you truly are.
Make a note of the good qualities they embody that you respect, admire or even aspire towards.
Chances are that those very qualities are active within you, already taking shape in your everyday life or lying doormat until you are ready to pick them like you would a baby and give it unconditional acceptance and nurturing.
2. Release all expectations
We live within a matrix driven by numbers, so it is only natural for the mind to seek evidence for anything in life through numbers (i.e. time, money, weight, age, distance, space etc.)
What if you fully embodied living, breathing and being your goal from the moment you set it? When you release all expectations, you release the need to be anywhere else but here, in this moment, where the fruition of all your goals is the only reality. Ironically, this makes you less focused on the process thereby any motivation to get ‘there’ comes obsolete.
3. Honour your needs
Getting from A to B is the most rewarding transitional journey you will ever make. And the only way you are going to get to your destination is by understanding and honouring your needs. Your needs are specific to you – uniquely creative, powerful and worthy of causing a ripple effect that can go further than any mind can travel.
If you need time away to rest, take it. If you need support from a professional, ask for it. If you need a hug, let your heart surrender to it. If you need a shoulder to cry on, rest your head on it. Whatever your need is, identify it, feel into it and attend to it.
The nature of transitions is that they happen in unison with the flow of life, demanding no effort from you, except for your whole-hearted trust to completely surrender.
Behind every goal is an intention to express the best version of your true self.
But behind every intention is an insurmountable amount of trust in your ability to get there.
So, would you prefer to wait twenty-one days to confirm if you have fully formed a new habit or would you like to trust that you know yourself better than research in the world, and effortlessly guide yourself towards your goal with complete surrender?
I would love to hear your feedback on how these three ways are of benefit to you.
Wishing you the very best for the year ahead.