03 May The he(art) of letting go
‘Let it go’, they say.
‘Its time to move on’.
‘Give space for new experiences to enter’.
What happens when you let go of anything that has had an impact through its presence in your life, good or bad?
Fear comes to mind. Of the void that silently fills the space of the person, place, thing or experience that was once an integral part of your life.
And yet that void is full to the brim, overflowing with lack of trust, hopelessness, neediness, unhealthy attachments and a constant state of worry.
So you understand, if ever so slightly, why you are being encouraged to let go.
But what do you do when death comes knocking on the door of a loved one? Let go?
Oh letting go feels like a hot knife slicing through your heart (without anesthesia).
Life urgently nudging you to transcend the need for physical attachment to access your soul’s true meaning of existence.
There are three masterful ways we behave in the art of letting go.
NOTE – There is nothing right or wrong with any of these behaviours.
Mastering the extremes is easy, the ego continues to survive justifying stories of its never-ending need for validation. The beauty lies in honouring the need for balance, to evolve from the space where the ego faces death from within itself.
1. Push away people/situations that are no longer serving your purpose in life
Time is truly precious and when you are draining most of your energy with emotions that make you feel unsafe with a person/situation, you walk away.
Makes sense though, yea?
Something you do when you feel unsafe is put your oxygen mask on first.
However, there is a caveat.
Have you considered what makes you feel unsafe?
What is your threshold for discomfort?
What area in your life (emotional, mental, physical or spiritual) generally gets triggered first when your unsafe bells go off?
Letting go does not always have to be all or nothing.
Sometimes that means taking the space to fully integrate the intense feeling of discomfort* to allow a new level of trust to emerge.
It is about honouring your needs and clearly communicating your boundaries (with yourself and others) without fully shutting down.
This is personally my own challenge and one that I am learning to balance with care.
2. Shove your feelings aside and continue on, status quo
Shoving your feelings aside can camouflaged as letting go.
Nothing’s changed, you are still well within your comfort zone and better yet, you no longer have to deal with how you feel.
Oh, there’s more! You giving up on your needs for the sake of something/someone else, what does that mean?
Your worthiness just went up a couple of notches. That feels good.
But for how long? At what cost? And whose eyes?
You are hiding from the things that do not honour you, out of fear of stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself first.
When you acknowledge your needs, you allow the transformation of your psyche.
Letting go of old ways of thinking, feeling and being happens naturally and is replaced with a renewed sense of pride and faith in the strength of your own emotions.
3. Remain indifferent with the hope that the situation will lose momentum on its own (if ever)
Indifference and hope – a delicious cocktail of confusion. Ah!
Indifference is one way of communicating to yourself that your body’s intelligence is not trustworthy.
Hope is, I want to trust in something bigger than me to take care of this situation.
What can be more uncomfortable than being in this constant of confusion?
When you learn to beautifully weave the energy of the universe guiding your body to move (decide) in the direction it needs to flow, trusting your body’s intelligence to grant you the freedom to choose within the container of your own level of flexibility.
This dance is worthy of an audience.
So, the art of letting go takes heart.
Lucky you are already born with it.
Trust your heart unconditionally to guide you through every life situation, knowing that its primary purpose is to always keep you safe.
*Please be mindful of your own threshold of discomfort, no one else can tell you where you should draw the line.
As a transition mentor, much of my teachings are based on my dedicated awakening to awareness itself and building on my intuitive skills through my life experiences. But I also strongly believe in the integration of the logical mind and the intuitive heart, so you will find some of my professional qualifications a delightful blend of both.