04 Jan What is your mirror reflecting back to you?
I wake up in the morning and the first thing I am faced with is my reflection in the mirror.
There was a time in my life not so long ago, when I cringed every single time I looked in the mirror. Everything felt off, the visible and the invisible parts of me.
I wasn’t at peace with who I was.
Living on foreign land, surrounded by people who looked (and behaved) differently to me only added to the feeling of dis-ease with being myself.
It appeared, to my psyche, that everyone had it better than me – life experiences, looks, social connections, family ties, you name it.
I would look at people around me and feel my heart contract as I was reminded each time of how unhappy, disconnected and different I really was.
Until one life-changing moment in 2008, when a precious soul said to me, ‘Pavitra, have you REALLY looked at yourself in the mirror? I believe you do not see what the rest of the world sees.’
Thus began my journey into some serious self-inquiry.
Seeing yourself in the mirror
It is only natural to notice your physical appearance when you look in the mirror. You either recoil, critique, fix or feel good about your appearance. And off you go, until the next moment when you are faced with a mirror again.
But what happens when you catch your eyes for a split-second and sense something more than just your physical appearance looking back at you?
Your eyes are the windows to your soul. They speak only one language, that of energy. A language that the human brain is unable to translate.
Your eyes not only respond to the external environment but incessantly project out, to the world, the true essence of who you are.
So, the next time you are in front of the mirror again, take a minute (or two) to really look into you eyes. Feel what is really within you.
Recollect every compliment that you have received, from strangers and loved ones, and see in yourself what is already being acknowledged by the world outside of you.
Honour that which you are.
And then thank yourself for choosing the vehicle that is your human body to express itself fully as a vital presence in the making of this universe.
Seeing yourself in others
We are but social creatures unable to survive in isolation for long, the human tribe supporting our existence and defining our lives with every interaction.
And yet these interactions can be the very basis of our dissatisfaction.
Ironic? Yes. Surprising? No.
When your interaction with another lacks the flow that is required to vibrate at the same frequency as your own values, morals, thought-processes and expectations, you become dissatisfied.
What we need to first acknowledge about dissatisfaction is that:
- it is just what it is – neither good nor bad;
- it is where your most incredible transformational powers reside; and
- it is the foundation of the world of duality you live in (yin and yang; light and dark)
Your dissatisfaction with a situation or another is a mirror reflection of what you are not at peace with, in yourself.
Example 1: If you are disconnected from your emotions, you will inevitably find yourself in situations where people in your life feel emotionally unsafe (to varying degrees) with you.
Example 2: If you have a fear of intimacy, life situations and people will mirror to you their inability to see your vulnerable side that is genuinely craving for nurturing, care and unconditional love.
Example 3: If you struggle with anxiety, you will come to head with people or life situations that are unable to provide you with the level of safety/security that you desire.
So, next time you find yourself feeling angry, frustrated, sad or dissatisfied – sink into your feelings and ask yourself which part of you is needing your undivided attention for healing?
Seeing yourself in nature
Oh! That beautiful flower!
My! What a gorgeous sunset!
Ah! The ocean makes me feel so expansive and nourished!
There goes a pretty little bird!
This is you.
I don’t really like that storm coming through, looks a bit harsh.
I am not a big fan of that tree that is growing in the middle of the park.
I dislike how brown the river looks today.
This is also you.
There is no right or wrong about this duality.
However, you have a choice.
To embrace the dual nature of your existence, to smile along with the flow of life and fully commit to healing wounded aspects of yourself or simply judge the mirrors that are looking back at you.
What will you choose?
As a transition mentor, much of my teachings are based on my dedicated awakening to awareness itself and building on my intuitive skills through my life experiences. But I also strongly believe in the integration of the logical mind and the intuitive heart, so you will find some of my professional qualifications a delightful blend of both.