How to let go the year that has been · Pavitra Gurumurthi Transition Mentor
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How to let go the year that has been

How to let go the year that has been

We are about to commence, not only a new year cycle but also a new decade.
It is only a few weeks away.

To me, the energy of 2019 was one of breaking down of old structures, patterns and belief systems (through strong mirror-reflections) that were no longer serving the forward momentum that we are seeking, individually and collectively. Although this energy brought with it a general sense of chaotic destabilising fight or flight dis-ease within our bodies, it presented us with many opportunities to let go of our attachments to old ways of being.

Let go.

How often do we hear this?

“It’s time to let go.” “Just let it go.” “I should let go.” “Why can’t I let go.” “I want to let go.” “Why do I have to let go?”

It seems that, as a society, we struggle with the concept and process of letting go.

So eager are we to race towards the shiny, shimmering newness of experiences, we forget that the mysterious workings of life are such that the old and new will forever merge as one, making sweet love to each other all the while maintaining a sense of wholeness on its own.

Everywhere we look, we are encouraged to set goals, make plans, get clear on our intentions, move forward and welcome the new. Just like the birth of a newborn baby, we are encouraged to celebrate new life with much joy.

But how did we get here?

To honour the old is to acknowledge the ancient wisdom of the universe we belong to.
And the only way we can do that is by honouring our life- past, present and future.

So we find ourselves at the cusp of change, transformation and rebirth as we step into 2020.

The possibilities are endless unless we take time to pause, breathe and embrace the old.

1. Grieve with love
Just as there may have been much to celebrate in 2019, life may have also stretched your heart muscles to feel the loss of many. And the time has now come to bow to its wisdom. I find that nature is beautiful in assisting in the letting go process.

Write down all that you have experienced this last year, especially the challenges and then use the natural elements of life (air, water, fire, earth) that bring you comfort and security to transmute it for you. For example, I used fire and earth. I burnt the paper that had all that I wish to let go written, the fire engulfing and turning it into ashes, like the phoenix about to be rebirthed. I then took it to a park nearby and buried the ashes deep into the earth, allowing the earth to receive me.

2. Accept with tenderness
When you bypass staying present with your loss, you bypass the ecstatic feeling of being alive. For 2020 to be as fulfilling, may you find yourself accepting all the challenging experiences of 2019 with tender loving care.

When you sense fear, anxiety or doubt creep in, acknowledge each of these feelings like you would a little child. Try not to rush in, to replace or disconnect. Thank its presence by saying, “I allow you to be what you are. I acknowledge you to be part of me. I fully accept you.” And breathe. Deep inhales and slow exhales. Repeat five times or as long as it takes for the feeling to ease.

3. Embrace with care 
Your journey through the last twelve months has been nothing short of a miracle. You survived. You made it and you live to welcome another year. How often do you take life for granted? Unconsciously assuming that you will wake up the next morning when you go to bed at night. And yet the energy that breathes you has a purpose of its own. Embrace this pulse of life with care. Be reassured that you are in a co-creation with this pulse.

When you awake each morning, show gratitude by saying a simple “Thank you” even before you open your eyes.

4. Release with trust 
In order to let go of the weight of experiences from 2019, you require an insurmountable amount of trust. Trust because when there is a release, at first, there is a void. And this void can create a level of stress in our bodies because we have learnt to fill it very quickly without knowing how to remain in the empty nothingness of each transitional phase in life.

Know that with each release you create scared space for the new. And this space is alive, contracting and expanding depending on how you wish to play with it – the power is in your hands.

Understanding the process helps elevate stress and encourages a level of trust.

Release – Space – Create – Experience – Release

And so the cycle of each transition repeats again.

If you struggle with trust, there may be a part of you that believes that you need to control everything. Accept this with tenderness. For control is nothing but fear, cleverly disguised to make you feel superior.

My wish for you

May the next year be one that sees you step in your true power through mindful integration of all aspects of self that wishes to be seen, felt and heard by the ultimate creation.


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