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How to become self-aware

become self aware

How to become self-aware

Have you had people tell you who you are?

“You are sensitive”

“You are nice”

“You are smart”

“You are loud”

“You are ________” (insert adjective here)

the list goes on….

And you think, yes I am those things because these people know me better than I do, of course!

Now, what if there was no one tell you who you are? No one to influence you and your potential? How would you describe the qualities that make you who you are?

Enter Self-Awareness.

What is self-awareness?

It is the ability to bring presence to your life (mind, body and spirit) using your five senses.

Self-awareness always brings a level of adventure. It opens your world to a range of brand new experiences that will leave you feeling connected to many unknown aspects of life.

The benefits of becoming self-aware are endless.

To name a few:

  • You will start to trust your own decision-making skills because you will understand the language of gut instincts.
  • You will become less anxious because you will start to live in the present.
  • You will be more creative because your ability to tune into the subtle realms of your consciousness will increase.
  • You will start to connect with that part of you that brings your joy, happiness and peace.
  • Your communication skills will improve because you will be able to read/notice subtleties during your interactions with people.

I am often asked, How did you become self-aware? What methods did you adopt to become self-aware?

So I have listed below simple easy techniques that I still use every day.

    • Focus on your breath. How fast are your inhales? How slowly do you exhale? Does your stomach expand when you inhale? Do you let out all the air from your body when you exhale? Do you breathe through your nose or your mouth? How do you feel with each inhale/exhale? Bring presence to your breath without any judgement.


    • Scan your body. Starting from your toes to your head, notice how you feel. Do you experience mild pains anywhere? Are you clenching anywhere? Do you feel strain any where? Do you feel a general sense of relaxation all over? Does your body feel heavy or light? Again without any judgement simply observe subtle shifts within your body.


    • Feel the air around you (preferably a few inches away from your skin). What does that feel like? Do you feel any tingles? Any shivers? Is the air cool or warm? Are there any other sensations? Doing this takes your attention to your immediate environment and your reactions to it. You can slowly expand your awareness to include the people in your space, their reactions to you and vice versa, or perhaps you could tune into the subtle sounds that come from outside the building?


    • Observe your thoughts. What are you thinking about? Are the thoughts bringing you a sense of peace or do they make you anxious? Are the thoughts beneficial to your well being right now? If yes, how can you enhance them to bring you more of that good feeling? If not, is there something you can do about it? Place no judgement on the thoughts that come to you, just observe and let them go.


    • Feel connected. Notice the subtle coincidences that happen to you. Don’t brush them off easily thinking they mean nothing and do not place any judgement on them. When interacting with another person or if you are just hanging out in nature, observe the subtle shifts in and around you. You will slowly start to expand awareness outside of yourself and become aware of the invisible thread that holds everything together.


    • Write write, write, write! Write if you can right now! Write about anything you feel. If you prefer structure, pick a theme and write. Let the words flow out of you. Don’t worry if your writing is not as good as Bill Bryson or perhaps it is better! Start with 5 minutes every day and increase it if you can. If you hate writing, you could just record yourself on a voice recorder.  The key is to have an outlet for your thoughts and feelings.


    • Try new things. Have you tried anything that is out of your normal routine recently? It could be as small as changing your route to work or as big as moving to a different country. How has that made you feel? Do you feel empowered? Do you feel like you have gained a new perspective? This will not only expand your awareness, it will also bring in new ideas and get your creative juices flowing.


Are there any other ways that you use to become self-aware?

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