15 Sep Assumption vs Intuition – How do you differentiate between them?
A lovely new acquaintance asked me a question one morning, ‘where do your parents live?’ I said, ‘both my parents have passed away.’ He looked astounded, said he was sorry and seemed a bit uncomfortable. After a few seconds of silence, he looked at me with a smile and asked, ‘you must have siblings?’ I said, ‘I am an only child.’
His initial question is as innocent as they come and pretty much based on a natural assumption that we all tend to make. But his reaction made me realise that not only had he made an assumption, he believed it to be true. His discomfort also made me feel that I should have answered his questions differently.
We assume a lot of things in our everyday lives.
I am guilty of that myself.
For some time, I mistook my assumptions to be my intuition and slowly went into a downward spiral of losing trust in myself.
How do you differentiate between assumption and intuition?
Both assumption and intuition lack conscious reasoning and deal with the unknown.
But assumption is based on assessments made through good or bad judgement whereas intuition is based on trust and an inner knowing.
How do you know when you have an intuitive feeling?
It comes from a place of non-judgement and peace.
It does not seek validation.
The feeling is deep-seated, one you cannot shake off easily even if everything around is conveying a different message to you.
It is not dictated by your fears or insecurities.
When you have an intuitive feeling, you are less likely to be anxious because it comes from a place of trust.
How can you avoid making assumptions?
Assumptions generally bring about unhealthy relationship dynamics.
You tend to either assume the worst in people and withdraw yourself from a potentially fulfilling experience or assume the best in people and give more of yourself, forgetting that you matter just as much too.
Ask open-ended questions. Questions that begin with ‘what’, ‘how’, ‘why’, ‘where’, allow for genuine exploration during a conversation.
Be conscious that everyone’s journey is different and no two experiences are the same. Perspectives vary and that is what keeps life interesting.
Give people the opportunity to open themselves up to you. Some people need more time than others.
The bottom line is that we all want to be heard and feel connected.
How do you differentiate between an assumption and intuition? How has listening to your intuition helped you? Comment below, I’d love to know.
As a transition mentor, much of my teachings are based on my dedicated awakening to awareness itself and building on my intuitive skills through my life experiences. But I also strongly believe in the integration of the logical mind and the intuitive heart, so you will find some of my professional qualifications a delightful blend of both.